This article reflects on African-American ways of mourning. Black ancestors taught that a “body that knows how to die well will know how to live well.” The author discusses her own depression & suicide ideation, the suicides of 2 Black women, & problems faced by successful, professional Black women. She suggests contemporary women re-institutionalize the meaningful death & dying rituals older generations used, rituals that promoted healthy processes of grief & taught when & how to let go.